Dear Narendra Modi, Amitabh Bachchan, Sachin Tendulkar, Shahrukh Khan, Salman Khan, Aamir Khan and Anil Ambani,
I am writing to YOU specifically because you are the most powerful and influential MEN in our country.
I am writing to you as a woman who grew up in a middle class family in Mumbai.
I am writing to YOU for HELP!
My parents may not like me saying this. I apologize to them if they are reading but this is NOT MY SHAME. It’s THIER SHAME.
My first experience with the opposite sex, was when I was just 13 and groped by a man (never saw his face but will never forget his hand) while walking in the vegetable market with my mom. She had just given me the worst haircut and as an angry teenager I was upset at her and was lagging behind as she walked ahead. I still remember what I was wearing. It was her dress, mustard with flowers and little bow in the front. How I hate that dress! As if, it was the dress’s fault.
I was shocked at first. Speechless. He disappeared. I just stood there. Tears started pouring out of my innocent eyes. I told my mom who went mad screaming in the market but who knew where that man disappeared to. I still remember the dirty feeling I had and the number of times I showered in my grand-mom’s bathroom after. That feeling never went away.
Shenaz Treasurywala
Since then it was non-stop. I would try to articulate this to my parents and while my mom understood, my dad and uncles told me I was imagining it. Maybe they just couldn’t deal with it. CAN YOU?
When I was 15, I started going by train and bus to St. Xaviers’ College. I was groped and touched and from all angles and this was just how I grew up. Not Just Me but MOST INDIAN WOMEN who don’t have the luxury of cars and drivers.
As a teenager I would dream of and still sometimes dream that I had a machine gun and could kill all the men who tried to grope me. A very disturbing dream for a kid, don’t you think?
I got my first assignment as a model in the FYJC and I had to go to screen-tests straight from college. So I had to dress nice, didn’t make it any easier. I specifically remember the time I went for an audition in a red body suit and a black long skirt with slits. It was HELL! I never wore that again. As if it was the dress’s fault.
I developed ways to defend myself, I always carried a bag in front of me, my fist was always clenched, I always turned around every 20 seconds to check who was behind me and a few times I slapped men who touched me, I got slapped back many times too. Sometimes saved by the public, MOST TIMES NOT.
My mom begged me not to pick fights with men who touched me, she was afraid of acid being thrown at me or that somebody someday would hurt me badly. She is STILL AFRAID and today she told me not to take an UBER to my meeting tomorrow. Hell ya. BAN UBER! Make everyone take responsibility for this.
My sister got into Sophia’s college, we were all excited. She went by bus but the first day she came home, she sobbed traumatized. A man had put his hand in her tee-shirt through her sleeve, the entire bus ride. She just froze. She was a kid too and wasn’t equipped to even understand this. I was LIVID. I’m sorry sis for telling the world this, please don’t stop speaking to me. IT’S NOT Our Shame. It’s THEIRS!
One of my friends in college was RAPED on the train on her way home in the ladies compartment. She was sick and was going home in the 11:15 break. There was nobody in the first class compartment going back to Bandra at that time, it was a superfast meaning it didn’t stop at most stations. He raped her and then jumped off after using her scrunchy (hair tie) to wipe himself. She was the only one on the train and had to limp her way back to her home in Bandra, bleeding profusely. She was just 16. This she felt was her shame so she did not say anything to anyone.
BUT IT ISN’T HER SHAME, it’s THEIR SHAME.
My mom accompanied me to Hyderabad on a shoot once. In churi bazaar, a cyclist groped My MOM. My dear respected and lovely MOM.
Sorry Mom, IT’S NOT Our Shame, It’s THEIR SHAME.
Why am I telling you my personal story?
Well first I want all women to Speak Up.
Let’s make this our MOTTO-
It’s not OUR SHAME, it’s THEIR SHAME.
Who are “THEY”?
“THEY” ARE THE MEN IN OUR COUNTRY.
Not just the rapists and the sexual offenders and gropers but also our Fathers (sorry dad) and Uncles and Brothers and MOVIE STARS AND CRICKETERS AND POLITICIANS for not SAVING US or PROTECTING US by insisting and protesting for the LAWS TO CHANGE and Rapists and Gropers to BE PUNISHED SEVERELY!
Why do we as women have to feel so threatened? WHY has there been no severe action taken? This has gone on for years now. Not just in Delhi but all over our country and yes even in BOMBAY OR MUMBAI OR Whatever the hell you want to call it! It’s NOT SAFE. NO!
My biggest fear ever since I was kid and even today when I walk back home at night from yoga or when I take a rickshaw from a friend’s home is being RAPED. I still feel that fear. I am still am on guard. I still fantasize of having that MACHINE GUN.
In the past 4 years I have been living and working half in India and half in New York and let me tell you I have walked the streets of Harlem, the Bronx and Brooklyn (perceived as the most dangerous in NYC) at3am after parties in short skirts and felt safer than I feel in Bandra at 10 pm on a quiet road fully covered. WHY??
Let’s talk about Delhi our Capital. I was there 2 days ago and the day of the rape. I wanted to go out and walk by India Gate and admire our great monuments but could I?! Why??
What good are all your speeches in the US or Japan or AUSTRALIA- NAMO, if no woman can walk freely in the streets even in broad daylight by herself in the CAPITAL OF OUR COUNTRY. Isn’t this a SHAME? SHAME ON YOU SIR.
This is our NO1 issue. FIX THIS before anything else.
This is a SHAME. And it’s YOUR SHAME. You are now RESPONSIBLE FOR US.
I beg all of you fine gentlemen that I have addressed to help change the LAW.
You are powerful men. I say, SHAME and PUNISH THE Gropers and Sexual offenders severely. KILL THE RAPISTS.
I won’t ask for public castration which is what I want and all the women want because I know this is unrealistic and things move SO DAMN SLOW in our FINE NATION.
All I ask for is the -Death Penalty Please. NOW! QUICK!
If that’s too hard or will take too long then at least LIFE IMPRISONMENT.
Put them away forever.
Why was this man who had raped twice before out on bail?
And then given a drivers license? YES, BAN UBER TOO. Make everyone responsible.
I’m ready to do anything. I’m not a big enough celeb but you Sachin Tendulkar, Amitabh Bachchan, Salman Khan, Sharukh Khan, Aamir Khan, Anil Ambani SIRS- need to speak up as MEN ( you are the men with the power)
SAVE US!
Please demand the Death Sentence for the Rapists.
NO BAIL. Just Death.
Superstars I beg you, please take a stand. Use your Superstardom and Power and MONEY and save the women of our country. SAVE US!
I urge you to protest or go on a fast or do something DRASTIC so people take notice, the government wakes up and CHANGES the LAW so these men are terrified to touch us.
Death to rapists. No bail. Just death.
Imagine Amitabh Bachchan Sir, Aamir Khan, Salmaan Khan, Sachin Tendulkar, Anil Ambani- if you went on a fast or walked to the Rashrtrapati In Delhi. If you, took this stand and made this YOUR NO 1 issue, how much change there would be?!
Why should we as women feel so unsafe in our motherland?!
Why should we as women be terrified and on guard all the time.
Why was this man out on bail after committed two rapes already ?
Make an Example Of Him.
Any man who even touches a woman should be imprisoned for life.
Be strict, make examples of these men, scare those who dare to touch us.
SCARE THEM BY MAKING AN EXAMPLE OUT OF THEM.
SAVE US, Save your mother, daughter, sister please!
This is NOT OUR SHAME.
THIS IS YOURS.
SHAME ON YOU.
Don’t sleep till you – SAVE YOUR WOMEN!
With all respect,
Shenaz Treasurywala
Bravery always wins very brave girl u r shenaz keep the shoes tight we will bring a change
Regards
Utkarsh
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I was shocked to read da letter…..i understnd how difficult its for girls n women to move out at nite…but its not evrywhere…thou a lot mny ppl stare at you for dat matter both men n women n i ve encountered it at tyms where in i ve tkn da situation in my hand n ve beaten da person….but dat doesnt mke India my country a very unsafe place…..m disturbed totally of wats happening around coz after NIRBHAYAS incident a lot sch incidents are happening…its being a year for dat incident n things vnt got betta in our capital….how will women feel safe den???i think sch ppl shud be beaten by the dat girls family n friends den da remaining ppl around n den givn t bck to cops….its really a shame dat sch men exist whose birth certificate is itself an apology letter….i jus want my country shud b safe place for evryone n ppl shud leave in peace.i think in SWACH BHARAT mission dese sick people must b cleaned first.
Real guts shown by shehnaz and i agree with her that the rapists must be given severe punishment and molestation against girl child those person shud be killed straight away. Hope all the men understand that they too have a family at home and if these kind of things happen to them what would they feel. Mr.Modi instead of roaming the whole world just have a walkout in the outskirts of such area like delhi, haryana etc where women are totally unsafe.
Shenaz,
What is your time line for these powerful men to mitigate these above issues? 1 month? 6 months? 1 year? 5 years?
I doubt these men have any power/influence, otherwise, why nothing has been done to the city or nation these sorts of inhuman practices have been committed even before their stardom?
If nothing happens within the reasonably timeline you have set, then my honest suggestion would be for every proud Indian Women to mobilize. Meaning, every women should carry a weapon, whether it be pepper spray, knife, gun, or as you dreamt, a machine gun. I know Sikh women carry a knife all the time and as a result, rape is the lowest there compared to other states.
If the law does not support / protect your right to live as a women in your nation, then stab or shoot these animals. Take off their source of weakness, for that message will spread quicker than any law to take affect and definitely bring fear into these father less cowards.
Jaihind!
Rape is a crime people know it and we have rigorous laws for that, knowing rape is a crime people getting into this crime is the question.
Empowerment is necessary not only for women but for complete society, you cannot empower only a segment of society and if you do, the less empower segment will try to take away your empowerment.
Empowerment has to be done at the economic level, if it is happening at the cultural level I bet you gonna stuck with such debates and cultural dogma’s. Economic empowerment has the power to cut through all these dogma’s and where every individual will have their own share of standard living, economic development will provide more spectrum to think hence widening up mental level of each individual. We should concentrate more on cleaning and strengthing up our society and we are doing just the reverse by creating gender biased debates.yAA Offcourse Its our shame
Convenient time to write this letter, eh? When your movie is just about to release!
Please it a requst to al A-listd pple in the country…to stand up and make a change…its high time bloody rapists realize its not for fun..you bloody men destroying someone’s life..we have to Make change…laws have to be strict enough..to scare them..dicison should be made on the spot…n it shuold be death statemnent
A good, very good letter addressed perfectly. I agree to what Shenaz said. We must start by severely punishing gropers, rapists as well as eve teasers. A lone girl, woman is not an opportunity but a responsibility. Her safety should be every man’s concern.
im ready to do any thing ,to react on this action. if u all r plannin to take any action against this ill do what ever is possible from my side im wid u shenaz. v have to punish these rapeist.
Its really very bad what all happen:
Also I advice all the Girls, womens to take care of dressing like Bharti Nari:
Say salaam or Nameste or good day: Brother you look same like my Brother,Father who ever may be he will take care of you sisters : Daughter Mother:
Dress Decent and full cover to your Baody is very important do not dress in such a way force a human to became a devil
Also my Brothers and sons and human being please do not spoil the name of Adam and Hawa
i have experienced the same in my life.
this is not the story of just a mumbai girl its the story of almost all the girls of india, whether they are living in metros or small town.
to hell with all the bastards.
they deserve DEATh, KILL THEM,HANG THEM.
I fully agree with Shenaz and have gone thru the same a hundred times and felt dirty! If you men cannot do anything about it, we women will take it upon ourselves and defend our own selves. Give us the license to kill rapists, gropers, eve teasers !!
I salute her for the bold outburst she has done. Strict and sure punishment is the only solution for this. When one criminal shall get punished then a thousand shall be dettered. Let us all of us unite and force the government to act strictly.
In recent times it is being observed that there is a growing clamour for death penalty for rapists and even for the gropers also. It is also
being said that atleast life imprisonment should be the minimum punishment for touching/groping girl.
Needless to say that,I don’t share or support this view to control this menace. There may be plenty of arguments and counter logics, but
my simple understanding is that these punishments will not necessarily eradicate this but may reduce to some certain extent. As Capital punishment has not got rid of Murder from our society- no punishment will be able to get rid of this too.
I strongly deny the claim that India is particularly vulnerable to this problem and those developed and modern world countries are immune to this. In support of my claim I request you to go through these websites to get a clue about the figures of sexual assault in countries like USA , Canada etc.
http://www.rccmsc.org/resources/get-the-facts.aspx
http://www.nsopw.gov/en/Education/FactsStatistics?AspxAutoDetectCookieSupport=1
http://www.sexassault.ca/statistics.htm
“1 out of every 6 American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime. Among all victims, about nine out of ten are female.”
“About 20 million out of 112 million women (18.0%) in the
United States have been raped during their lifetime.”
“Only 16% of all rapes were reported to law enforcement.”
Well- above stats are about USA. And I find a similarity with India here.
So, I am pretty much convinced that this is true for the whole world and it is not that hard to imagine that this is a reality in country who given birth to type of magazines like “Playboy”, “Archies” and genre of SexCom movies.
If it was so easy to control or get rid of these with very strict and medieval ways of punishment- USA would have got rid of it much
earlier. Do not forget that the USA has the highest prisoner/capita population in the world.
So what can be really done? What is the way out? Well, again there could be several ways and may be thousand logics and none of them will ensure 100% result as with any other problems of the world. But I strongly believe that we should take a liberal view of the male community also towards this.
I can correlate my experience and feeling towards this to
get some clue about how we male community feel or what made us motivated or encouraged or what really forced us to stop someday. Well, I believe in a male life this is a period or stage and it goes away in most of the cases after a certain time or age. Also I want to
bring it to your knowledge that it is not the problem of only girls- we male community also face this challenge sometimes. I can atleast talk about me- Its still embarrassing for me to acknowledge in a public forum that; twice I’ve faced similar situation in my life. Once in an early morning local train compartment by a bugger and we were the only person in that compartment that time and once by an unknown person sleeping next to me after a party in a friends place. Well, these were not rapes off course, but those ugly feelings of touch is equally disturbing and troubling for even a man too. And my friend laughed and said that the fellow do the same with everyone when I complained to my friend. I am just saying that it is not really different with us too. Well, I don’t want death or life imprisonment for those fellows – it is not because I am also a man- but because I strongly believe that they were not well educated and properly counselled
in their early life.
I can also shamelessly share that I have not been only the
victim, but I have played the role of culprit several times in my early life.
So, I can probably answer or bring light on few of the psychological aspect of
this.
It was never really a matter of pleasure for me, but a
matter of pride. It was a matter of how many and how frequently. Some wrongly perceived macho feeling was associated with this. And it was to boast in front of friends. It was much more of a number game than the real pleasure. As if I learned it this way from my friends that it is very normal to do and it is rather abnormal to not do. As it was a similar real adrenalin booster to steal a cake or book from the shops next to our school. It was never the hunger for
the cake or eagerness to read that book- but that peer pressure. Those adrenalin boosting effects of planning executing a crime was the motivator.
I can tell you about myself and it was more of winning and
the happy feeling of seeing the girl of not knowing the trick to counter this. I remember my college days and a big group of students of another college used to travel in local train everyday with me and it was a proper planning and sync between them about how to execute a crime if a pray is around. And I am quite sure that they never ever remembered the face after 1 month or 15 days. It was kind of sport for them. And I always found a group of girls were clever enough to handle them or me and these defeats also used to bring a smile in my face.
Now, before I explain what went really wrong with my
psychology – I want to highlight the reason what stopped me. Well, an unique structure of my family (almost non existent) forced me to learn most of the things on its own or from the external information’s or influences(as I lost my mom in a very early age). It was really about some TV interview on the same matter- why it is not really manly (probably one of them was by Salman Khan); forced me to think and abandon. It could have been the arrival of a girlfriend-
but it was some reading and some TV interview in my case. Well, this doesn’t mean that I’ve stopped gelling with girls or flirting or lost interest in girls. I still do a lot of flirting- but offcourse with extremely good friends with strong bonds of trusts. Without any sexual connotation attached to it. In a healthy & friendly manner.
So I contribute this change entirely to “KNOWLEDGE”. It was this lack of or wrongly acquired “KNOWLEDGE” which encouraged or emboldened me to prove my greatness and winning streak to my ever boasting friends. And again this real knowledge only got it out of me.
In our society we don’t discuss about girls and boys with our parents- especially dad. And we do not have any sex education or moral
development sessions in our schools. And most of our population hardly have the access of real education. Sex and discussion about it is still a taboo in our society. But this is an integral part of human life and human being. I believe that- this lack of information and properly guided education about sex in the most vulnerable age of adolescence is the real cause of all these menace.
Punishing or recommending a severe punishment is quite easy- but did we really did our best in part of information sharing and on character building on those days when it was really needed. They acquired a false pride, a false sense of social norm, a false conception of manliness because we as a society refused to speak
about it when they started learning. My dad never came up to me to discuss about a girl next door or about a proper way of behaving with a girl to impress her. But unfortunately experience was with him only- not my friends.
Another big problem is the inability of the society to accept
a romantic relation when our child is in school or college. Sex & Love are still a big taboo in the vast part of Indian society. And Sex & Love is unnecessarily strongly interlinked in our mind whereas they are totally independent aspects & experience of life and Love is not a crime neither consensual sex. I still remember that my 2nd girlfriend broken up with me as her dad’s only objection was that; it was “Love” – which was a crime in his opinion. Well, I was already with a job & my dad was quite a rich fellow then (compared to them)- but we did the crime of falling in “Love” without her dad’s permission.
I strongly believe this social menace is mostly caused by the society itself. We must encourage and ensure discussion within family about
sex & love during those years of changes and character building. We need to bring Sex Education at the earliest on schools. We need to make education compulsory for every citizen. (I am strong believer of forceful implementation of education for all till he or she turns 21.)We need to start thinking about speaking openly but tactfully about it in front of our children. We need to encourage or stop resisting falling in love during these years. It gives ample opportunity to know about the girl’s psychology and carries a lot of potential answers to a world of questions about a girl and everything about her.
And our social media, school teachers, extended families has
a big role to play in this. And as a nation also we need to play a constructive role.
If we can really do bring all these hard changes in ourselves then we will not have to daydream about those unrealistic harsher punishments. Do not forget that it is still a man dominated society. Even in America girls did not had voting rights before 1920. So never ever expect that we will commit such a huge mistake which will screw us in future as we have not any less screwed up ourselves with our generosity to bring 498A and its subsequent misuse.
Saying all these, I can guarantee you that it will still remain
there with modification and at much lesser extent. Afterall we men will always remain curious about girls and girls will keep us attracting till the end of mankind. You can watch “American Pie 1 or 2” to start believing this .
Afterall- Men will be men
Thank you so much shenaz for taking this step. You are really a very brave girl. Salute to you!
I think every women or girls have faced such incident in their life, i have also been groped and the person who did it was my first cousin, whom i treated as my own brother and surprisingly he was into a committed relationship….. I mean…WOW…! REALLY……? And when i tried to bring out this topic to my n his mom, my mom didnt know what to do & asked me to not tell anyone else…WHY? and his mom & his family defended him… REALLY…? Thats what families do in india? support a CRIMINAL?
Yes…..CRIMINAL….because he committed a crime which is not and never forgivable… and the punishment what a person get in INDIA after doing such things that he(Namard) is living his life to the full swing… got married to a great girl and now a father of a son too…. and i am still in that pain, still have sleepless nights, not able to trust any man, have feeling that i have been raped and the RAPIST is my own cousin brother…WHY????????????????????????
CAN ANYONE ANSWER IT??????
This letter can ultimately change our country when all the responsible person perform their duty without hesitation. Hats off
All ladies should carry and arm themselves with a PEPPER SPRAY dispenser when moving around in vulnerable areas to protect themselves
I really respect this letter, and as a responsible person of India I always support for this.
But you know the reality of most of the cases. Even me, myself going through a dowry death case. That is completely a false or fake or whatever you can get.
I actually want to say that it is a serious problem of our entire country, but we have to be honest about it. Why a normal person is facing this problem without doing any offence.
Our girls, women and everyone have to be honest.
If there will be a truth, than everybody should be with you.
But first please stop using this entire law as a brahmastra…
I appreciate the girl share her personal problem here and its not an matter of guts its a matter of womens safety ,,there are stories hidden like this but no solution ,,,, are gradually increasing,,,one more thing there must a strict role and law but it should be acceptable n the basis of proper justification….now a days girls also using many people n push them in a trap for marraige,money and make a story of sexaul assualt or cheating or abusing but it could be properly justify if gvt mk any role or law cause soometime man also fLl in a trap by women which spoil his image career and reputation even though mentaly torture by taking the advantage of doing physical and Ll
By reading the letter and reading comments of some people opposing this i really don’t understand onething……
guys, is there a rule that if a girl wearing short dress have to get raped or groped ….
then wat abt the people living in the foreign countries…..
are they covering their bodies completly….?
NO NO NO
its the mind set problem of the men…. yeah we got tempted if we saw a girl like that but that doesnt mean to rape them or grope them ….
ok fine from child age u r grown up in a culture where all the ladies covering their bodies completely…..
but just think once if u go abroad and find a girl drunk,wearing sleeveless clothes then would u try to rape or grope her???
u can’t because if u did u will end up either in a bad position or dead….. thats for sure bro…
i am trying to say as the world changing try to change ur thinking……
and finally i wan’t to ask every men who was not supporting this ….. in india u can’t wear the dress u like but u can rape? huh? is it so? then if u r of that thinking please just shut up!!!!
AND PLEASE LET THE GIRLS LIVE PEACEFULLY. DO U KNOW WAT WAS THE RATIO OF GIRLS PER BOYS IN OUR INDIA ITS 8:10 IF THIS GO ON THEN THINK WAT THE FUTURE WILL BE!!!
SO PLEASE PLEASE CHANGE UR MIND SET….. !!!!!!!
Yes sister agreed with you.. I am from Pakistan and I strongly condemned this sinister act. I demand a death penalty to the rapist both in Pakistan and India
I feel very sorry to what happen to a girl in india. Even the stringent action in force, it may not curtail such incidence, unless the government deeply review, why it is happening more in cities.
My view is
1. Ban the pictures shows heroine or any female actor with badly embossing their body.
2. Let the film directors take meaningful songs with decent duet songs, by giving value to female charaters.
3. At present, every man/boy need sincere physiological counselling from school level, and educate how to respect girls and also explain their life style and day to day problems.
4. Media should be restricted to display girl/women posters with vulgar exposing.
5. Find the boy & men over feelings on opposite sex must be treated with counseling, it can only be reduced such harassment against women/girl.
6. Thought Religious perfection in schools & colleges
7. Lastly , implement immediate action against culprits.
What’s the point in venting out thoughts and feelings when WE cannot CHANGE OURSELVES ?
Think about this:
1. Can we stop ourselves from watching the movies of these stars (WHO make MONEY & are RUNNING after it…..instead of LISTENING to our CRY ? ) STARs will listen when WE make them listen, by CREATING a “loss of demand” for what they are hankering after.
2. Can we READ a LOT, and REALLY get to grasp the KNOWLEDGE of ancient India and DEEPEN OUR KNOWLEDGE about National Politics ? NAMO will ACT when every citizen is KNOWLEDGEABLE. NAMO is NOT ACTING because he has been successful at manipulating the IGNORANT people of INDIA.
3. Can we STOP BEING CRAZY about “God Sachin” ? He and his family travels in Ferraris and Limozines and what not. How does it matter to him whether Anybody gets raped ? As long as NOTHING happens in his OWN family, he will not act. But, if YOU and ME want him to act, we have to STOP being crazy for him. He is just a talented sportsman, and is happy to be a member of Rajyasabha. EASY life. Comfortable life. Why bother ?
It is when WE can change OURSELVES…..can we really change how India & Her men operate.
JaiHind.
Unfortunately we have hidden wolves in our own shelters and we women never tell our griefs to anybody.You all are suggested to watch Pakistani Drama CHUP RAHO,it is all about sexual assault.
o god …shame to be indian…..still no death penalty for rapist… acc to . IPC sec 376 – rigorous imprisonment which shall not be less than 7 yrs and shall also be liable to fine.
but they realty they walk freely on bails…..
This letter is too long to read. These big guys will never do anything. Go to police and ask them to implement the laws. Once woman complains it is duty of police to serve and protect. Laws need to be enforced with strictness. it happens everywhere and crying for help from these big guys not a solution Ambani is busy making money. same with others.
It is painful laws laws laws tough laws and clean police will help you.
This is a shitty article to create a hype about herself.
Its not about what she said, but who said. Look at your pics, you are more than welcoming to grope your ass.
I ran away from my mother nation just because I got a baby girl. When I come for vacation I can’t sleep peacefully for even one night. Everyday I go to sleep thanking god that nothing happened. When I go to shop I keep her with my mother. She never saw any malls or shopping centers of India. She is just 4 years now. Still I feel she is not safe. When I went to hospital my brother asked me never to keep her down. Anytime any child can go missing. After she
turned 4 I asked my parents to come here to see her. I am afraid to go to my nation. Here she run n play in play grounds malls. I don’t even need to keep my eyes.
Well writtenBrave girl God Bless U n all such, I wonder when our Country n the world will be a safe place, corruption routed out and all kinds of leaders responsible, secular good humanbeings and not just two faced as most are then only will our world especially India be a beautiful place to live in so we can do away with these unnatural plastic smiles.Strict Laws against Rapists and their like should be ensured n followed. I agree with this brave girl it is their shame not ours
I have been reading this post and since some time and wanted to express my views . The way I look at it is the whole concept can get a caption ” what internet gave Kerala women apart ( from on line shopping)
The author seems to (as most Kerala females) live in a circumstance where female oppression is injected in to the vains.
I am vehemently against the view and caption a and do agree that there are people like that. But the point is Kerala men in general are not so bad.
I bet the author have just seen the rest of the INDIA in books or series or jus like that.
I studied in gujarath where girls are normal talking to guys. they don’t have to repeatedly check or adjust there dress anticipating people staring at them. No offense and cheers to my sisters in Kerala who don’t do that and just understand the bad look and react rather that expect for it) .
I challenge the author to figure out if 10% of the male she knows fall in the category she spoke about. (Well I have a list of at least 15% female who are dangerous)
The author seems to concentrate only on the negative remarks against Ranjini Haridas. I would like to point out Kerala men hate Sreesanth more. Not because he is a bad cricketor but for the attitude. Most of the men in Kerala doesn’t have anything against Manju, asin, amala paul ( who expose more than ranjini) the point is its not gender its the attitude.
We respect maduri, sree Devi.Kerala men never posted a thing when sania mirza got married in Pakistan, We never stood behind Delhi rape accused, we badly wanted Manju to return to films, we started to hate pritviraj ever since he gave that interview.
So please stop making it a gender oriented remarks and make it a character or attitude oriented thing. Stop being judgmental and realize.
To add on at the end I feel Kerala girls are more liberated after marriage. So its about generations too.
Also I recently read a letter to pm by shenaz treasurywala and tears ran down my eyes too. It was genuine. From bottom of my heart I I’ll put all my energy and capacity to fight that. But not for ranjini or Sreesanth. And again its not gender its attitude that matters.